Monday, May 31, 2010

Tapping in the positive and tapping away the negative

The implicit messages for me in the approaches to tapping in the “positive” or tapping away the “negative”, is that there is something "bad" to be gotten rid of. We feel contaminated by the “bad” in some way and therefore there is an urgent need to get rid of it as quickly as possible. And then, there is something "good" somewhere out there in the ether, that isn't a part of us. There is instead, a desperate grasping for the good stuff, that deep down, we don't believe we are a part of and deserve.

The issue I see with these approaches is that there is a fundamental belief that we are not innately good and that there is something innately wrong with us. Seeing good as something external and something bad as internal are very powerful beliefs that we can tap on. The language we use is so telling, it is an accurate reflection of our beliefs and thoughts, and can guide us easily to what the real issues are.

Examine any beliefs you may have that do not serve you and use EFT to dissolve them. Tapping diagram.

Freedom means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery – Wayne Dyer

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Breath - Sensing the Body

If we could keep our breath going all the time, we would rarely be sick. Breath is what keeps us healthy. When it falters, as it often does, that's when we start to get sick. That becomes the start of illness. Do everything with coordinated breathing and you will strengthen your whole body. Your body will be resistant to stress and disease ~ John Diamond

Article by Luis S. R. Vas,

By changing one’s breathing, by placing the attention on the softness of the out-breath, one can change the energy of a room, one can turn an argument into a dialogue. The apparently simple act of sensing the body releases its healing potential in a powerful way and has been adopted by numerous therapists in their work.

Usually this sensing is accomplished in two stages. The first stage is sensing the breath. The second is scanning the whole body under certain conditions.

As we breathe in we take in impressions via the senses, as we breathe out we let go of what we took in. The process happens with each in-breath and with each out–breath; the process of birth and dying.

Yet, as we breathe in we receive impressions and simultaneously we discriminate, we assess certain impressions as favourable and others as not favourable. In this act of in–breath we practise “becoming”, we shape our reality, our sense of self; we identify with our likes and dislikes. We create our personality.

The out-breath is essentially an act of emptying, of letting go, a freeing of identity in order to receive the next in-breath in an unconditioned way, free from past fears or future anxieties. This is the potential of breathing.

Breathing is more than the process of air passing in and out of the body, breathing is also the consciousness, the level of awareness of each person.

In some therapies, for example, working with one’s breath is a central tool to diagnose and to evaluate the level of one’s awareness. By working with the breath one is exercising and awakening one’s awareness, and therefore stimulating our own healing potentiality. Practitioners are often surprised that by working with the breath they become involved in their own healing process in a most direct and immediate way and at that moment strengthen their healing potential.

Letting-go of the breath, letting-go of becoming, letting go of the emotional weight necessary to keep our personality going, is a first act of healing, then taking in is free from conditions, free from holding on to a sense of “self”. Thus the healing potential of each individual returns to its natural rhythm.

As practitioners discover their own potentiality through the mindful practice of breathing they become more attuned to their breathing.

Furthermore through their own practice practitioners will have experienced that there is a gap between the end of the outbreath and the start of the next in-breath. This gap is not the same as holding one’s breath. Naturally as the outbreath ends there is a sense of “no–need to become, no need to be reborn” and the awareness rests in that gap or space; this is where practitioners can meet their own awareness and potentiality, this is where healing takes place.

To cultivate the awareness of the “space” between out-breath and in-breath is vital in the assessing and exercising of the healing potential. If at that point practitioners can rest their attention in that “space” a true healing is experienced. This is the beginning of healing the human condition from its incessant grasping at the next in-breath in order to re-affirm its “personality”.

Basically where attention is, breath is; where attention is, energy flows. Breathing goes on all the time, for all of us regardless of the activity, place or time. It is therefore a most suitable tool to exercise awareness, and to stimulate healing. It is a true barometer of where we are at any given moment.

Every thought, emotion, opinion, or idea we have, is acc-ompanied by a change in breathing! Many times we are not aware of this but it occurs all the same. By changing one’s breathing, by placing the attention on the softness of the out-breath, one can change the energy of a room; one can turn an argument into a dialogue. Therefore the practitioners can help change their condition simply by practising awareness of the breath, especially at first the awareness of the out-breath in their own belly.

Now we come to the second stage of body sensing.
The method is first of all to develop the skill of observing the body in the four basic postures, standing, walking, sitting, lying down, and to link this awareness of the body to all life activities.

The sensing starts with the awareness of the body as it is slower and denser than mind and so can be more easily observed. Through the repeated and consistent observation of the body and its activities, the practitioner will not fail to become more aware of the mental states that accompany the bodily activities.

From the observation of the body and mind one goes on to the training or taming of the body and mind. This means, for example, that if you perform a certain activity like answering the phone or opening a door, your att-ention(mind) is with the body movement, not ahead of it or behind it. How often while one is doing a simple daily activity like switching on the kettle, the attention is on what has just taken place or on what is about to happen. Training the body and mind means teaching the attention to come back to what is happening at that moment, here in this body, now in this moment, no matter how many times one needs to call the attention back.

It is a simple, not always easy, but simple method. Again this is practised in the four basic postures and in all daily life activities.

The next part of the training is liberating, freeing mind. The practitioner will by now have realised or at least touched on the experience that suffering or dissatisfaction in one’s life is totally linked to the sense of self-identity, me and mine, my views and my needs, “wanting what I do not get, and getting what I do not want”.

The sensing practice will help us release our grip, our hold onto “this is me, this is mine” condition. With patience and kindness to this “me”, we will gradually become less dominated in our response to the world by the acquisitive, the averse or the confused characteristic which normally dominates us.

Over time with lots of dedicated practice and lots of good-will the four sublime abodes, Loving Kindness, Compassion, Sympathetic Joy and Equanimity, will become our true refuge in self-healing.

Thus body sensing is a form of training available to all, it is not a gift nor the privilege of the few. All that is required is an honest intention to look into the mirror of body awareness again and again with a sense of humour and kindness.

Basic body sensing exercise

• Sit with an alert and relaxed body posture so that you feel relatively comfortable without moving. (You can sit either in a straight-back chair with your feet flat on the floor, or on a thick, firm cushion three to six inches off the floor.)
• Keep your back, neck and head vertically aligned, relax your shoulders and find a comfortable place for your hands (usually on your knees).
• Bring your attention to your breathing. Observe the breath as it flows in and out. Give full attention to the feeling of the breath as it comes in, and goes out. Whenever you find that your attention has moved elsewhere, just note it, and let go and gently escort your attention back to the breath, to the rising and falling of your own belly.
• When you can maintain some continuity of attention on the breath, try expanding the field of your awareness “around” your belly to include a sense of your body as a whole.
• Maintain this awareness of the body sitting and breathing, and, when the mind wanders, bring it back to sitting and breathing.
• After your have gained enough practice proceed to do steps 4 and 5 with the other three basic body postures, standing, walking, and lying down, and to link this awareness of the body to all life activities.

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Experience your good

These exercises by Louise Hay are a great way to examine your beliefs about health,

"True healing involves body, mind, and spirit. I believe that if we "cure" an illness yet do not address the emotional and spiritual issues that surround that ailment, it will only manifest again."

EXERCISE: Releasing Your Health Problems
Are you willing to release the need that has contributed to your health problems? Once again, when you have a condition that you want to change, the first thing that you have to do is say so. Say: “I am willing to release the need in me that has created this condition.” Say it again. Say it looking in the mirror. Say it every time you think about your condition. It's the first step in creating a change. Now, do the following:
List all of your mother's illnesses.
List all of your father's illnesses.
List all of your illnesses.
Do you see a connection?

EXERCISE: Health and Dis-ease
Let's examine some of your beliefs about health and dis-ease. Answer the following questions. Be as open and honest as you can.
What do you remember about your childhood illnesses?
What did you learn from your parents about illness?
What, if anything, did you enjoy about being sick as a child?
Is there a belief about illness from your childhood that you're still acting on today?
How have you contributed to the state of your health?
Would you like your health to change? If so, in what way?

EXERCISE: Your Beliefs about Sickness
Complete the following statements as honestly as you can.
The way I make myself sick is . . .
I get sick when I try to avoid . . .
When I get sick, I always want to . . .
When I was sick as a child, my mother always . . .
My greatest fear when I'm sick is that . . .

EXERCISE: The Power of Affirmations
Let's discover the power of written affirmations! Writing an affirmation can intensify its power. Write a positive affirmation about your health 25 times. You may create your own, or use one of the following:

My healing is already in process.
I listen with love to my body's messages.
My health is radiant, vibrant, and dynamic now.
I am grateful for my perfect health.
I deserve good health.

EXERCISE: Self-Worth
Let's examine the issue of self-worth with respect to your health. Answer the following questions, then create a positive affirmation to counter each one if your response was a negative one.
Do I deserve good health?
Sample Answer: No. Illness runs in my family.
Sample Affirmation: I accept and deserve perfect health now.
What do I fear most about my health?
Sample Answer: I'm afraid that I'll get sick and die.
Sample Affirmation: It is safe to be well now. I am always loved.
What am I "getting" from this belief?
Sample Answer: I don't have to be responsible or go to work.
Sample Affirmation: I am confident and secure. Life is easy for me.
What do I fear will happen if I let go of this belief?
Sample Answer: I'll have to grow up.
Sample Affirmation: It is safe for me to be an adult.

Health Affirmations
Make these affirmations part of your daily routine. Say them often in the car, at work, while looking in the mirror, or anytime you feel your negative beliefs surfacing.

I get three colds every year.
I am safe and secure at all times. Love surrounds me and protects me.

My energy level is low.
I am filled with energy and enthusiasm.

I heal slowly.
My body heals rapidly.

My allergies act up constantly.
My world is safe. I am safe. I am at peace with all of Life.

Heart dis-ease runs in my family.
I am not my parents. I am healthy and whole and filled with joy.

I get one illness after another.
Good health is mine now. I release the past.

My back gives me constant pain.
Life loves and supports me. I am safe.

These headaches never go away.
I no longer criticize myself; my mind is at peace, and all is well.

I'm always constipated.
I allow life to flow through me.

I have sore feet.
I am willing to move forward with ease.

I'm always hurting my body.
I am gentle with my body. I love myself.

"I give myself permission to be well."

Health Treatment
"I am one with Life, and all of Life loves me and supports me. Therefore, I claim for myself perfect, vibrant health at all times. My body knows how to be healthy, and I cooperate by feeding it healthy foods and beverages, and exercising in ways that are enjoyable to me. My body loves me, and I love and cherish my precious body. I am not my parents, nor do I choose to re-create their illnesses. I am my own unique self; and I move through life healthy, happy, and whole. This is the truth of my being, and I accept it as so. All is well in my body."

Sunday, May 23, 2010


We are, in our essence, just patterns of light and information
~ Richard Bartlett

In emotrance, we are taught that emotions are the feedback from our energy systems or energy bodies. The more distressing the emotion, the more our energy system is crying out for our help. When energy doesn't flow naturally, it eventually becomes very dense, as hard as ice. This dense energy has ground to a halt and causes havoc with our emotions. We'll experience emotions like frustration, depression and hopelessness because these emotions are all symptomatic of dense energy that has stopped moving and flowing. When our energy is moving naturally, we feel lighter, more vital, alive and buoyant. Pay attention to the initial warning signs that your energy system gives you in the form of emotional feedback and help your energy to keep its natural flow by fully experiencing your emotions without criticism, judgement, denial, etc. Once you judge an emotion as “bad”, the energy of that emotion becomes stuck. If the judgement becomes a habit and pattern, the energy becomes denser and denser and denser.

Rather than thinking in terms of the popular emotional guidance scale of high and low energies, I prefer to think of emotions and energy in terms of being dense or light. It feels more helpful and hopeful to me.

Friday, May 21, 2010

Substitute needs

This excellent article is by Leonard Jacobson

Question: You speak of a hierarchy of repressed emotions as follows: anger, hurt, need, and fear. I gather from what you say that our needs, other than for survival, are an illusion. Is awareness of these needs all that is necessary for them to be met and to move beyond them? Is there some action we must take?

Leonard’s Answer: The only true need is the need for others to be present with us. All other needs are substitute needs. When we came into this world as tiny and vulnerable babies, we had a need for our parents to be truly present with us. But to varying degrees, they were not, and so we did not feel safe. In order to feel safe, we began our pursuit of substitute needs.

“Well, if you will not be present with me, then will you at least love me?”

It soon became obvious that we would not receive the level of unconditional love that we needed to feel safe, so we went after the next substitute need.

“Well if you will not love me, then will you at least accept me unconditionally?”

That substitute need was not met.

“Well, if you will not love and accept me unconditionally, will you at least approve of me, or acknowledge me, or make me feel special.”

With each step we take in pursuit of these substitute needs, we are moving away from ourselves and becoming lost in others.

Most of us spend our entire lives in pursuit of these substitute needs, completely unaware that all we really need is for others to be truly present with us. One who is fully present is loving, accepting and acknowledging. When another is truly present with you, you get it all.

~ Leonard Jacobson

Monday, May 17, 2010

Healing People with Schizophrenia through Shared Acceptance of Clients' Realities and Shifts in Bioenergy Fields

The field of psychotherapy holds to the basic premise that what is experienced by people with schizophrenia is not normal or real. As a result, in psychotherapy there has always been a major emphasis on trying to help clients give a full account of their inner reality in words, pictures or other symbolic representations, admit they were delusional, and through learning to measure reality with the yardstick of the therapist to regain full grasp of normal reality. Bruce W. Scotton (2002) points out that “Although traditional psychiatry and psychology have made impressive strides in the understanding the human mind and the brain, they adhere to an unnecessarily restrictive view of the psyche and its functioning, and in doing so they refuse to follow the scientific method. Specifically, our current sciences of the psyche fail to examine the data concerning, build theories to explain, and work therapeutically with spiritual experiences and experience of nonordinary reality."

The goal of this article is to expand the existing model by questioning and rethinking assumptions about the basic nature of client’s non-ordinary experiences. This article describes a non-traditional approach to treating people with schizophrenia that involves authentically accepting the person's story and symptoms as a valid reflection of an inner crisis, and treating the person's positive symptoms by respectfully using each aspect of their story as a direction from which healing can proceed towards spiritual integration and symptom resolution.

The starting point of all these stories is the healing professional asking the person to describe their inner reality and then engaging and treating them from within that reality.

This report is divided in the following sections:

1. A brief overview of the challenges and perspectives on treating people with schizophrenia.
2. A story of my personal path to healing
3. A discussion on shared intentional focus and the validity of inner reality
4. Case examples describing the challenges of reframing and resolution in achieving a successful treatment outcome
5. Discussions of bioenergy field alterations that facilitate healing for these people.
6. Summary of the approach and conclusions.

Friday, May 14, 2010

A Tapestry

Imagine that your life is a tapestry, maybe you're looking at the back of it most of the time, seeing the mess of threads and the chaos, thinking you'll never get it together and berating your self. It's at these moments or times in our life that we often completely forget that there is usually a beautiful picture being created on the other side.

Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does ~ William James

Monday, May 10, 2010

Being willing to heal

It doesn't matter how much you want. What really matters is how much you want it. The extent and complexity of the problem does not matter as much as does the willingness to solve it ~ Ralph Marston

The number one ingredient that is absolutely necessary for healing is willingness. No one can give willingness to you, nor can they take it from you. It is your decision, it is your free will. Ask your self honestly are you willing to heal? Say, out loud, "I am willing to heal" and see how true it feels. What you don't name or acknowledge will act as a block to your healing. If one part is willing to heal and another is not, it sets up a conflict in our system which drains our life energy. The part that is not willing to heal, for whatever reason, will sabotage the efforts of the part that is willing. Instead of getting angry or criticising this part, ask why it isn't willing to heal. Usually, the reasons will be fear of change, fear of losing, fear of disrupting the status quo, fear of angering or hurting someone. Once these reasons become conscious, you can do something about them and make a clear decision. Being willing to heal is one of the most important reasons, if not the most important reason, why EFT, or any healing modality, will, or will not, work.

It's so hard when I have to, And so easy when I want to
~ Sondra Anice Barnes

Friday, May 07, 2010

Giving something permission to stay

If you decide to give an issue/problem permission to stay, you'll probably feel a lot of resistance to doing that. The reaction most will have is to fear that they will never get rid of the issue if they do that. We mistakenly think resisting the issue will help us to get rid of it! Paradoxically, giving something or someone permission to be there, dissolves our resistance and helps us to become clear. From a position of clarity we are much more effective in finding and seeing the solution. Tapping diagram.

Even though I have this ... I give it permission to stay

Even though this fills me with fear, I choose to do it anyway (tap on the fear or any emotion that comes up)

Even though it feels like I'm giving in to ... I KNOW from experience resisting this issue isn't working so I'm going to try a new approach

You cannot remedy anything by condemning it
~ Wayne Dyer The Power of Intention

Thursday, May 06, 2010

Intention: Aware and Awake

The moment one gives close attention to anything, even a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious, awesome, indescribably magnificent world in itself ~ Henry Miller

Tuesday, May 04, 2010

EFT tapping script for losing weight

There are many reasons we can put on weight; eating too much, unhealthy foods, eating for comfort/emotional reasons, underactive thyroid gland and so on. In this post, we'll address some of the emotional contributors. Are you carrying extra emotional weight? Do you feel weighed down? Does it feel safe to be slim? What do you need to be protected from?

Try using EFT the following set up statements, please modify them to suit you and your unique situation. Repeat as many rounds as you need to. Tapping diagram and Twenty questions to help you find core issues and beliefs. Try tapping continuously on the stomach meridian (under the eye point) for emotional hunger and cravings and the thyroid meridian (triple warmer or gamut spot) when feeling depleted, weighed down or hopeless.

Even though I need to feel full, I accept that need

Even though I need to feel full so I don't feel … I accept my need not to feel …

Even though I crave … I love and accept myself

Even though I feel bored, I accept how I feel

Even though I feel weighed down by … I completely accept how I feel

Even though I'm carrying … I love myself

Even though this weight protects me from … I accept my need to be protected

Even though it doesn't feel safe to be slim, I honour my body for keeping me safe anyway it can

Even though I hate the fact that I'm fat, I accept that's how I feel right now

Even though I eat when … I'm doing the best I can

TH It feels good to eat
EB I like feeling full
SE It's comforting
UE I feel calm
UN But I hate feeling fat
UC I don't like how it feels
CB Or how it looks
UA I'm not happy

TH I feel anxious
EB Eating comforts me
SE I don't feel so bad when I'm full
UE I crave ...
UN And eating fills that craving
UC At least for a while
CB And then I feel awful
UA When I look in the mirror

TH It doesn't feel safe to be slim
EB Too much attention
SE I can't handle it
UE This extra weight …
UN I feel … about this extra weight
UC I want to feel …
CB That doesn't feel like it's within my reach
UA Right now

TH Maybe there's a deeper reason for this extra weight
EB What purpose does it serve?
SE No purpose!
UE I just feel fat!!
UN And ugly!
UC And horrible!
CB And full!
UA I don't feel like my self

TH I feel weighed down
EB By ...
SE It depletes my energy
UE What do I do?
UN Just feel it
UC And stop resisting
CB And tap
UA And tap

TH I accept my needs
EB I trust my self
SE I trust my feelings
UE I choose to look at how I feel
UN And I choose to feel those feelings
UC I choose clarity
CB I choose clarity
UA I am okay