Energy and Intention

The need to fix your self

2009-11-02T12:23:00.003Z

Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you cannot bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all you are beyond the pain ~ Saint Bartholomew

Wanting to fix yourself usually comes from a belief that you're broken or that there is something wrong with you. We want to run away as fast as possible from the feeling this belief creates. The more we run, the more it chases us. It can seem like we're never going to “get rid of it”. Feeling like you're broken or damaged in some way is painful. Rather than facing and examining our pain and beliefs we avoid them, like the plague. This creates a lot of tension and conflict and is a huge energy drain.

Healing is not about fixing or “curing” anything. It is about remembering - re-mem-ber: putting the pieces or members back together again - who you really are. The you that is underneath and covered by all the beliefs, all the thoughts and all the emotions that you think define who you are. The thing is we identify with these beliefs. We believe we are these beliefs. We hold the false belief that what happens to us IS us.

Examine your beliefs and where they came from. Without evidence - events – we would not hold these beliefs. Use EFT on the events and beliefs and dissolve your pain.

Feeling heard

2009-10-29T13:58:00.002Z

I have long believed that not feeling heard is traumatic. It renders you hungry for more. More love, more approval, more acceptance. But it's never enough.

We feel heard when we or someone else is fully present. It is the greatest gift we can give to our self and to others. We know or can sense when someone is not listening. What we're really feeling is that they are not present with us. We make all sorts of interpretations as a result; we're not important, we don't matter, we're not worthy of their attention and therefore their love and acceptance.

Do you hear you? Are you present to you? Plug your self in to the present by meditating and hearing what you have to say.

Meditation is the tongue of the soul and the language of our spirit ~ Jeremy Taylor

The Discovery Statement of EFT

2009-10-26T14:06:00.003Z

By revolution we become more ourselves, not less ~ George Orwell

Watch your language

2009-10-25T17:31:00.005Z

Consider describing your life with different language. Substitute your description of a 'problem' into one that makes you feel powerful, a description that gives you a choice about what path to take. The words we use will usually reflect our thoughts. What do the words you use say about your thinking? Are they helpful? Are they helping? Our perception of something will determine our entire approach to it. Seeing more than one possibility gives you back your power. Choosing different words, just like using a thesaurus instead of repeating ourselves, helps you see things differently. If you consider an issue to be too big, consider the possibility that it has to 'scream' at you because you're not listening. If we always do the same thing we'll always get the same results. We have to do different to have different.

Are you ready for release?

2009-10-22T15:32:00.003+01:00

A guided meditation for releasing unwanted emotions and clearing our perception to see more possibilities in our current situation.

http://www.chopra.com/agnilight/oct09/podcast

Feeling out of control

2009-10-16T14:13:00.005+01:00

Control is never achieved when sought after directly. It is the surprising outcome of letting go ~ James Arthur Ray

Many people react to not feeling in control with fear. Fear is often defined as false expectations appearing real. How does fear show up in your life? A knot in your stomach, anxiety, or panic attacks? The mind will resist letting go or surrendering as it does not feel in control. When you recognise this, it will lessen your fear and resistance to accepting what is.

As Eckhart Tolle writes in The Power of Now :

The greater part of human pain is unnecessary. It is self-created as long as the unobserved mind runs your life.

The pain that you create now is always some form of nonacceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the resistance is some form of judgment. On the emotional level, it is some form of negativity. The intensity of the pain depends on how strongly you are identified with your mind. The mind always seeks to deny the Now and to escape from it. In other words, the more you are identified with your mind, the more you suffer. Or you may put it like this: the more you are able to honour and accept the Now, the more you are free of pain, of suffering----and free of the egoic mind.

Why does the mind habitually deny or resist the Now? Because it cannot function and remain in control without time, which is past and future, so it perceives the timeless Now as threatening. Time and mind are in fact inseparable.

In energetic terms, the more you resist what is, the more intensely you will experience and feel an energetic disturbance. Emotionally this can manifest as fear, terror, guilt or anger and it may also manifest physically and mentally. You can correct this energetic short circuit with EFT so your energy will flow as it is supposed to. Accepting what is helps keep your energy moving. And paradoxically, acceptance is needed for change to occur. Flow and movement are the opposite to resistance.

As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them, to your great delight and benefit ~ Emmanuel Teney

Diagram of tapping points

Follow the path of least effort, nature does!

2009-10-15T10:40:00.002+01:00

Belief like any other moving body follows the path of least resistance
~ Samuel Butler

Music, Smell and EFT

2009-10-12T18:35:00.003+01:00

We sometimes forget how evocative music and smells can be at recalling long forgotten memories. What smells of home? Freshly baked bread? Or something else? What smells do you remember from school? These two senses can really help you to tune in to your feelings which makes EFT so much more effective at correcting any energetic disturbances. Have you ever caught a whiff of something that immediately transported you back to when you were 5 years of age? In a positive or negative sense?

Listening to music can be helpful when you find it difficult to tune in to how you feel. Smells or odours can be more difficult to control! They can pop up when you least expect them and take you by surprise. Both smells and sounds can be aspects or features of an issue you may be having difficulty clearing. Remember, anything at all can be an aspect or feature of an event. The more you do EFT the more you will experience this for your self. If so, ask yourself what smells or sounds you can remember about a particular event. If something comes up, tap on it, if you find your self overwhelmed or even taken aback (this often happens when we remember or smell a smell) keep tapping until the intensity subsides. You don't need to say anything as you're already tuned in.

Diagram of tapping points

Letting go

2009-10-09T13:15:00.004+01:00

By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning ~ Lao Tzu

If you're feeling overwhelmed, full, stuck, exhausted or ready to burst, it is time to consider letting go. If even considering this elicits an emotional charge, you know you have definitely hit on something. What or who do you find difficult or even impossible to consider letting go of? Life is a process of ingesting, assimilating and eliminating. We often get stuck, literally and metaphorically, on the last two. We find events or people hard to digest. We often feel very justified in hanging and holding on to something, particularly if the event was traumatic. In fact we could say they are directly proportional! What we don't eliminate or let go of, accumulates, accumulates and accumulates. We start to feel under the weather, heavy, lethargic ... the full barrel effect. Little things start to REALLY bother us and we can't cope. And the pile just keeps on growing.

Choose one thing a day to let go of. Start small, be gentle and kind to yourself. Observe how much lighter you start to feel with each passing day. Remember if it gets difficult you are doing this for you. This is a gift you are giving to your self.

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward ~ Author Unknown

Feeling trapped, stuck and overwhelmed

2009-10-06T14:25:00.002+01:00

Emotions are energy. Energy follows the laws of nature. Energy likes and needs to move. For various reasons energy can become trapped or stuck. Very often we experience this trapped energy as severe anxiety and depression. Trapped energy can attract more trapped energy and it keeps accumulating and we can begin to feel completely overwhelmed and helpless. We need to find a way to let some of that 'steam' out first.

Taking deep breaths and tapping on the thymus and collar bone area will almost immediately return some sense of calm. When you feel calmer you can then perform EFT on the specific reasons behind the anxiety and depression.

Diagram of tapping points here

Quantum entanglement and the Power of Intention

2009-10-05T14:03:00.001+01:00

EVERYTHING IS ENERGY

Movement

2009-10-01T10:15:00.003+01:00

Life is movement. Everything is in the act or process of moving and changing all the time. When we resist moving, we stagnate. When we resist our emotions, which are energy in motion or energy in movement, we hinder those energies from following their natural course, or when we allow a thought not in alignment with our true nature.

Allowing ourselves to feel our emotions allows the energy to flow freely. We don't allow ourselves to feel for various reasons, it is not our natural state but a conditioned and learned state. Sometimes it's not safe to feel or express how we feel or it's not acceptable to feel a certain way. It's 'bad' to feel angry, envious and all the other emotions and feelings on the 'bad' list. And we all have a 'bad' list. What do we do? When these energies arise, we deny them, we repress them with all our might because we are ashamed or feel guilty for feeling that way. Tap and breathe the next time uncomfortable feelings and emotions arise. Allow them to flow and move through you and dissolve ... naturally.

Diagram of tapping points

EFT script for feeling stuck

2009-09-29T10:38:00.003+01:00

“Movement is a medicine for creating change in a person's physical, emotional, and mental states.” Carol Welch

Try this script when you're feeling stuck. Scan your body to determine if you have any physical sensations of feeling stuck. For example, it may manifest as a knot or lump in your throat, a tightness in your solar plexus, a constriction in your gut. Be really descriptive in how you describe your physical sensations and use your own language in your tapping. If an image or metaphor comes to mind use it in your tapping. Tailoring the phrases to suit you and how you feel will help you to tune in and make EFT more effective. Diagram of tapping points

Tapping on your KC 3 times or rubbing your sore spot (see diagram) say:

Even though feeling stuck feels tight and constricting, I accept how I feel right now

Even though this issue (be as specific as you can here) won't budge and I feel frustrated and want it gone, I allow it to be there just for now

Even though I feel stuck, the act of allowing the stuck feeling the right to be there and thereby accepting it, is what could help me to dissolve it

TH this stuck feeling
EB It's not nice
SE It feels stifling
UE I feel helpless
UN I can't move
UC Either way
CB I'm stuck
UA I feel stuck, afraid to go back and afraid to go forward

TH It's loosening
EB It feels less tight
SE But I still feel stuck
UE That's the way I feel
UN I acknowledge my feelings
UC It's still there
CB But lessening
UA This stuck sensation

TH It's definitely dissolving
EB I feel it
SE It's still there … a little
UE It's melting
UN With my attention
UC It's going
CB It's moving
UA It's still moving

“Ignorance is like a shadow. It has no real substance of its own, it is simply a lack of light. You cannot cause a shadow to disappear by trying to fight it, stamp on it, by railing against it, or any other form of emotional or physical resistance. In order to cause a shadow to disappear, you must shine light on it.” Shakti Gawain

The Cross Crawl

2009-09-28T20:17:00.002+01:00

Try this simple quick exercise before you start tapping with EFT to make sure that your energies are crossing over. It will save you time in the long run!

http://www.feelingfree.net/batteryproblems/crossover.htm

Thought is What You Are

2009-09-25T13:02:00.001+01:00

Trans-form

2009-09-25T12:52:00.000+01:00

I am nourished by love

2009-09-23T13:04:00.004+01:00

I have found that there are very few, if any, tailenders (objections) to this statement of truth. We are all nourished by love, we need it. It feeds and nourishes us on every level. Even if you feel you don't have love in your life at the moment, when you have felt loved you have also felt nourished too.

Try the temporal tap (area around right ear) with this statement or try tapping on your thymus (centre of chest) as you say it. Do it as many times as is comfortable throughout the day.

When EFT does not seem to work

2009-09-21T13:10:00.002+01:00

By Stefan Gonick taken from emofree.com

(Please note that this article was based on an article written by Gary Craig called "When it doesn't work...." found in the Frequently Asked Questions section of the EFT website and includes most of his original text.)

When properly applied by an experienced practitioner, EFT has a very high success rate, usually over 90 percent. However, the initial success rate for newcomers usually starts around 50 percent. When EFT doesn't seem to be working, one or more of the following factors are usually involved:

1. The Set-up was not performed completely enough (Psychological Reversal)

2. You are trying to apply EFT to more than one thing at a time

3. The problem is being approached too generally or globally

4. The problem is still not specific enough

5. You need to get more clearly in touch with the issue

6. Original memories need to be addressed first

7. A second issue is interfering

8. A "secondary gain" (hidden benefit) is interfering

9. A "blocking belief" is interfering

10. Your feelings about the issue are interfering

11. A deeper issue is interfering

12. You are switching aspects during the tapping

13. Outside input is needed Read on

Short cut tapping chart

Your Beliefs Become Your Biology

2009-09-18T14:41:00.005+01:00

ANY thought (or belief or feeling) that is not in alignment with the energy of Creativity, Love, Kindness, Beauty, Abundance, Receptivity and Expansion is a RESISTANT thought or feeling. This resistance disrupts, blocks and impedes your energy which is your life force.

We think thousands of thoughts a day. It's impossible to have a feeling without having first had the thought that led to that feeling. Observe and witness your thoughts, do not beat yourself up, judge or criticise yourself if you have a 'negative' or 'false' thought about yourself or others. Instead, use EFT to dissolve the thoughts and beliefs that hinder your ability to be kind and loving to yourself. Accepting your self is the first step to accepting others.

Short cut tapping chart

“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” Peace pilgrim

You are loved

2009-09-17T13:43:00.001+01:00

What are the big themes in your life?

2009-09-15T12:17:00.008+01:00

What are the big themes in your life? Do you notice any patterns? How do you respond to stress? What emotions are difficult or too painful to acknowledge or express? Why? What do you 'complain' about the most? What would you like in your life, but don't have? What's blocking your good? What sort of relationships do you attract?

Explore the following common themes and add whatever else comes to mind. Examine the evidence of these themes in your life by exploring what you believe to be true for you, others and life. Find all the specific events that match up with and confirm these beliefs. List these beliefs by writing them down and rate their truth from 0 to 10. 10 being the most true it could be for you and 0 having no resonance for you at all. Start tapping on the events and beliefs.

Rejection	Powerlessness	Misunderstood
Abandonment	Trust	Trapped
Safety	Failure	Disapproval
Fear	Betrayal	Perfectionism
Worthiness	Bullying	Neglect
Injustice	Not heard	Unwanted

20 Questions for applying EFT in depth

2009-09-13T10:20:00.004+01:00

1. When did the issue start?
2. What was going on in your life at that time?
3. What does this issue/feeling/emotion/person/situation remind you of?
4. What is the earliest memory you have of this?
5. How do you feel about having this issue? The feeling surrounding the pain/issue often needs to be cleared first before dissolving the issue itself, particularly if the issue is chronic or serious.
6. How does this issue 'match up' with and confirm the beliefs you hold about yourself, others and life?
7. If there were an emotional contributor to this issue, what might it be? If you don’t know, guess.
8. Create step by step instructions for someone to know and experience what triggers you and your resulting emotions and feelings.
9. Why do you think you have this issue?
10. Do you think that this issue has a message for you?
11. What might that message be? Guess if you don’t know.
12. What quality/texture does the pain have? Be as detailed as you can, for example, heavy, tight, constricted, dark, tingling, and so on.
13. Does it have a colour?
14. Where is the issue/pain located? What is the function of the body part where the pain/issue is?
15. How does that function relate to how you feel? For example are you unable to 'stomach' an issue? Is something getting 'under your skin'? and so on.
16. What else do you notice about this issue?
17. What is the advantage of holding onto this issue? How does it help you?
18. What is the disadvantage of holding onto this issue? How does it stop you from doing what you want to do?
19. What image or metaphor comes to mind when you think of this issue? How does this relate to how you 'are' in the world?
20. If there were a person(s) or event(s) in your life you wish you had been able to avoid entirely, what would it (they) be?

Short cut version of EFT, chart and diagram

2009-09-09T22:04:00.005+01:00

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Slow EFT for self help on broad issues

2009-09-08T13:16:00.005+01:00

By Silvia Hartmann taken from emofree.com

S-L-O-W EFT!

This is an application of the basic EFT protocol I have designed especially with self help in mind.

If you have used EFT on yourself, you'll probably know that sometimes it can happen that an issue has so many different layers and aspects, you think you have to tap forever.

This is particularly the case if the topic is a high level nominalisation, such as "money", "happiness", "family", a person's name or your own name, or an illness you have had for a very long time - these kinds of words have so many different meanings, connotations and memories attached to them that you could easily generate a hundred opening statements or set ups and then some. When you are working by yourself, it can be most difficult to know where to start regarding a topic like that for the best effect, and I have even a suspicion that the main components to such a problem have a habit of hiding themselves from us.

Here is a simple way to use the basic EFT protocol with a single small variation involving time to release a great many aspects, whether you are aware of what they might be, or not.

Do the treatment for the psychological reversal on the sore spot or karate chop point, just saying the word or phrase you have chosen loudly and clearly, three times. There is no need to say anything else although you can always add, "I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself" if you wish to do so. Click here for a diagram of the basic recipe and short cut tapping points.

Then, start with the first treatment point, the eyebrow point, and tap it whilst you repeat the word or phrase out loud. Read on

Shadow work, integration and EFT

2009-09-07T14:48:00.007+01:00

"In contrast to the meditation found in yoga practice, the psychoanalytic aim is to observe the shadowy presentation — whether in the form of images or of feelings — that are spontaneously evolved in the unconscious psyche and appear without his bidding to the man who looks within. In this way we find once more things that we have repressed or forgotten. Painful though it may be, this is in itself a gain — for what is inferior or even worthless belongs to me as my Shadow and gives me substance and mass. How can I be substantial if I fail to cast a Shadow? I must have a dark side also if I am to be whole; and in as much as I become conscious of my Shadow I also remember that I am a human being like any other". Modern Man in Search of a Soul by Carl Jung

Make a list of the characteristics you 'hate' in others. Make note of the traits you have a big charge on and observe where in your life you see evidence of these same traits, in you and in others. What is the worst possible thing someone could say about you? Is it possible that this may be one of your worst fears? Asking these questions will undoubtedly bring up some tappable issues for you. What we deny, repress or disown we bury in our bodies or project onto others.

"Darkness is dispelled by shining a light on the problem, not by casting additional darkness on its path." ~ JJ Dewey