Wednesday, September 29, 2010

I digest life easily, effortlessly and joyously

How easy is it for you to fully take in what is happening, or what happened in your life? What signs are you getting that some experiences and feelings just haven't been digested, assimilated and eliminated by you? Are you feeling stuck, blocked, overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, angry? Do you have IBS, Fibromyalgia or are you overweight? Try tapping on these statements, make sure to customise them for you. Tapping diagram.

Even though I can't stomach what's going on/went on (detail it and be specific) I completely accept how I feel about this

Even though it's all stuck and I just can't seem to let it go, I love and accept myself anyway

Even though I just can't take it in, it sticks in my gullet, I love and accept myself

TH I can't take it
EB It's too much
SE To feel
UE Or understand
UN Or accept
UC It's stuck (are you getting any emotional/physical signs, such as indigestion or repressed rage?)
CB I wish it would just go away
UA But I can't make it!!

TH It's really hard to accept …
EB I don't see how I can
SE It's just not fair!
UE It's easy to accept that it wasn't fair
UN I can sort of accept how I feel about that
UC Though I don't know what to do about it
CB That's why I feel stuck
UA And angry!

TH I'd love to let all of this go
EB But I just don't know how
SE I can breathe
UE And tap
UN And become aware
UC Of how I'm feeling
CB What I'm experiencing
UA And stop denying it in all the ways that I do

TH So I can feel it
EB And take it in
SE And digest it
UE And let go of what I don't want or need
UN I can trust myself to know what to keep and what to let go of
UC Because I know
CB I just need to listen
UA To how I feel

To be free, you must find a way to let go of all the stuck energy that keeps sending out the same old messages ~ Deepak Chopra

Friday, September 24, 2010

The most important aspect

For me, the most important aspect in a memory is the associated feeling, or feelings. As Antonio Damasio writes in The Feeling of What Happens, “we experience because we have the ability to feel”. That's how important emotions and feelings are. The feeling(s) we experienced, or not, as the case may be, when something happened in our lives, laid the foundation of how that memory became imprinted in our brain, body and beyond. Whenever that feeling arises at a later stage, certain memories can be triggered.
If the feelings we felt at the time of the event were too overwhelming, we may have dissociated from them, or stuffed them, or buried them. Or maybe we were able to feel the feeling but when we expressed how we felt to others, we were shamed, so whenever we feel the beginnings of that feeling again, feelings of shame take its place instead. We may develop the belief that we are a bad person for feeling that way.

That's another thing about having the ability to feel and experience, we come to conclusions about our self, life and others as a result of these experiences, and these conclusions or beliefs become the foundation of how we live our life and experience life from then on. I believe that unless and until we connect to the original feeling, however painful (and this is why we usually avoid feeling the feeling at all costs, because we are too frightened to feel it again, so it's very important to work on uncoupling the feeling of fear from the original feeling) we won't be able to fully dissolve the charge on a memory or belief. Tapping diagram.

Whatever is rejected from the self, appears in the world as an event ~ Carl Jung

Monday, September 20, 2010

EFT tapping scripts for safety

Every exit is an entry somewhere ~ Tom Stoppard 

Try the following set up statements for tapping on safety, then use whatever reminder phrase that feels right for you on the points. Tapping diagram.

Even though it's not safe to feel this feeling, I'm afraid … will happen, I love and accept myself anyway

Even though it's not safe to express how I really feel, even to myself, I might have to do something about it then and I'm just not ready to act, I accept myself anyway

Even though some part of me believes it's not safe to let this go, I accept how this part feels

Even though I've had this … for so long, I can now safely release it and let it go (watch for any tailenders -objections- here and tap on them if they come up)

Even though this part(s) has kept me safe for so long by not feeling … I now choose to lift the burden from this part and help her/him feel the hurt and pain

Even though some part of me feels safer hanging on to …I love and accept this part

Even though I feel protected and at the same time unsafe, I accept how all parts of me feel

Even though I feel stuck because I'm afraid to move, I love and accept myself anyway

Every breath is an opportunity to receive and let go. I receive love and I let go of pain ~ Brenda MacIntyre 

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Willingness and Safety

All you need is your will to even flow ~ Silvia Hartmann

If someone were to ask me what are the most important themes to tap on, I'd say willingness and safety. Not being willing will sabotage any effort to love and accept our self, life and others, exactly as we and they are and if we don't feel safe or feel that we belong in this world, it will be difficult to realise our inherent and infinite potential. State, out loud:

I am willing

I am/feel safe

Rate the truth of these statements from 0 to 10, 10 being true and 0 being false. Tap on the 'evidence' you have of these not feeling true for you.Tapping diagram.

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Even if ...

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change ~ Carl Rogers

I came across this song by Alanis Morisette and thought it was made for tapping along to!

One way to find core beliefs/issues is to ask your self what do you feel you have to get rid of or make go away in order for you to accept and love your self? Can you love and accept your self exactly as you are right now, even if nothing changed? If not, why not? Then, tap on your answers. Tapping diagram.

Even if

… I never lose weight, I can still love and accept myself

… this … never goes away, I'll still be able to accept and love myself exactly as I am

… I remain sick, I'm a good and lovable person

… I can't/won't accept myself exactly as I am, I am still ok

In the film, The Living Matrix, Arielle Essex talks about developing a brain tumour, and after 8 years of doing all she could to make it go away, she finally gave the tumour permission to stay, and when she did that, it disappeared. She says:

“When I finally let go of needing my tumour to disappear, when I finally accepted its presence and gave it permission to be with me to the end of my days, when I recognised it as my friend, guide and teacher, when I felt gratitude for the motivation it had given me to change my life and my thinking, when I had forgiven all the people I had grudges with, my tumour no longer had a purpose and it melted away!"