Monday, June 14, 2010

What do you avoid?

The truth that many people never understand, until it is too late, is that the more you try to avoid suffering the more you suffer because smaller and more insignificant things begin to torture you in proportion to your fear of being hurt
~ Thomas Merton

Avoiding, denying, suppressing, or the urgency to get rid of something, are all conscious ways we use to avoid pain. Because it takes so much energy to avoid, the act of avoiding creates a strong energetic pull of the very thing we're trying so hard to avoid, into our life. We usually want to avoid because of fear but paradoxically, we will attract what we are most afraid of. Not to prove anything about us, but primarily because our focus is on the thing we're avoiding. We also know on some level that there is an opportunity to bring healing and resolution to a lifelong pattern by turning towards what we're most afraid of, instead of turning away from it.

What are you most afraid of? Do you avoid it? How do you avoid it? Make a list of how, why and what you avoid. There are steps that you can take, to disarm the charge on what you don't want and want to get rid of. When EFT is used along with the various steps below, it really helps us to dissolve the charge we have on the situations, feelings or people that we want to avoid and are afraid of.

Step 1 Identify how, why and what you avoid.
Step 2 Acknowledge how, why and what you avoid or want to get rid of.
Step 3 Accept how, why and what you avoid without judging, blaming, projecting it onto others or criticising your self or others.
Step 4 Pay attention to whatever surfaces and write it down.
Step 5 Become aware of the deeper message by asking how this issue or pattern serves your healing.

Look into the depths of your own soul and learn first to know yourself, then you will understand why this illness was bound to come upon you and perhaps you will thenceforth avoid falling ill
~ Sigmund Freud

2 comments:

Tamasin Fay said...

thank you Noreen; this is a very powerful blog. Avoidance can be so difficult to spot and uncover. Fantastic work, thanks for posting.

Noreen Barron said...

Thanks so much Tamasin :-)