Monday, August 16, 2010

Two sides of the same coin

golden waterfall, originally uploaded by paul (dex).

Resistance and Willingness are two sides of the same coin. Willingness will help you heal, resistance will stop any healing in its tracks. Willingness is an essential, and probably the most important, ingredient in the healing process. There's no bargaining to be done here, if you're not willing, you're going to find it exhausting struggling to do what you say you want to do. It will be uphill all the way. You will resist and fight every hurdle and obstacle you encounter which will drain your energy. You will hide, avoid, refuse to take responsibility, refuse to feel, want to be right all the time, project your stuff on to others, you'll do anything and everything rather than just start!

Do your self a favour at the start of the healing process, ask your self how willing you are to heal. Rate the truth of how willing you are from 0 to 10. Be completely honest. You can tap on all the reasons as to why you're not willing which will make your healing journey a lot easier and less painful. You might be surprised at the answers you come up with.

To heal we need to be willing to:
1 Look at something
2 Acknowledge it and
Feel it.

Willingness is not the same as willpower. Willingness is being open, being receptive and aware of what needs to be done. Willingness is effortless when all parts of you are on board.

What we call the secret of happiness is no more a secret than our willingness to choose life
 ~ Leo Buscaglia

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