Why infinite love and gratitude heals

The journey of your spirit is to reconnect with the power of Infinite Love & Gratitude.

Infinite means "the universe" or "the collective conscious," which has no beginning or end.

Love is the universal power that propels life, fueling your will and enabling you to face and overcome challenges.

Gratitude empowers you to go through life without judgment. You see the value of any experience (even situations you may have once perceived as "bad") as an opportunity, rather than being a victim of circumstance.

(Taken from Dr Darren Weissman's website infiniteloveandgratitude.com)

3 thump EFT

Tapping the collar bone (K27), the thymus and the spleen meridian points every morning (and a few times throughout the day) will energise and balance your entire energy system. It will also help boost your immunity and life energy.

(Drawing by Aoife Barron).

Rumi

The Living Matrix

Your thoughts/beliefs affect your health. Dissolve false and limiting beliefs and thoughts with Emotional Freedom Techniques and live a life of emotional freedom.

Tap away the trauma

Move over Freud — energy therapies may be just as effective
by Catriona Wrottesley,
The Times, August 13, 2005

Rebecca Lamy looked out of her window on to a garden covered with gravel. No grass. Not one flower. Strangely, this barren outlook calmed her. Nothing to attract wasps. Even the thought of the black and yellow insects made her heart thud. “I’d never been stung, but was terrified that I might be. I had visions of suffering some terrible allergic reaction,” explains Lamy, 27, a training manager for Marks & Spencer, from Jersey.

A friend recommended emotional freedom technique (EFT) which, like acupuncture, is based on the idea that energy flows around the body along 14 meridian lines. Sometimes, according to the theory, these pathways get blocked by negative emotion, causing anxiety, phobias, even physical illness.

The technique involves gently tapping with fingertips on acupressure points along this meridian system while focusing on the negative emotion. Tapping releases blockages so the body’s energy can flow freely. Read more

You are not what happened to you

I am not what has happened to me, I am what I choose to become ~ Carl Jung

What you believe to be true will be true for you. EFT is a fantastic way to dissolve those false beliefs you hold about yourself. Have a look at this video by Byron Katie illustrating the belief "There is something wrong with me". You'll find there will be numerous events holding this belief up, use EFT to dissolve the emotional charge around those events and the belief will dissolve and disappear. Use the personal peace procedure to help you.

EFT for chronic pain, PTSD and chronic fatigue syndrome

For Circe

What are you wearing now?
Grey jeans and grey jumper - but two different and lovely shades. I like the colour grey, it gets a tough time ;-)

Who was the last person you hugged?
My boyfriend ...

If you were a tree, what tree would you be?
An oak or a weeping willow

What was the last thing you bought?
Books, I'm looking for nice shoes but find it difficult to find shoes/boots I like in the winter. I'm definitely a sandal person, I like the freedom of no socks!


What are you listening to right now?
Cesaria Evora and Ludovico Einaudi

What is your favourite weather?
I’m a summer baby (born in July), warm/hot, calm with a soft southerly gentle breeze

What is on your bedside table?
Iyanla Vanzant, Deepak Chopra, Antonio Damasio. I always have loads of books on the go, unless I’m reading a novel, not that it’s a novel but the last book I read that I couldn’t put down was Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. I love not 'being able' to put a book down because it's so good ;-)

What is your most challenging goal right now?
To be peace

Say something to the person who tagged you:
Thank you Circe for all your heartwarming comments on my blog and your friendship ;-)

If you could have a house totally paid for, fully furnished, where do you want it to be?
Somewhere warm and sunny where fruit ripens on the vine and I can reach out from my window to pick it ;-) and oh yes, beside the sea with access to good food and good red wine

Favourite Vacation Spot?
Kerala, India (God's Own Country)

Name the things you cannot live without:
God, Love, good food, red wine, conversation, sunshine, seeing, reading, energy, music

What would you like to have in your hands right now?
The keys to my dream home

What is your favourite fragrance?
Lei/Her by Giorgio Armani

What is your favorite drink?
Water (room temperature) and red red wine ;-)

What would you like to attract?
All good

Have you ever lived abroad?
Yes, in Italy

If you could go anywhere in the world for the next hour, where would you go?
Somewhere with white sand, blue sky and torquoise sea or the desert where the silence is beautiful

If you could have your portrait painted/made by any famous artist from any era, who would you choose?
Gustav Klimt

Kindness and Serotonin

When you
carry out acts
of kindness
you get
a wonderful feeling
inside.
It is as though
something inside
your body
responds
and says, Yes,
this is how
I ought to feel
~ Rabbi Harold Kushner

This includes being kind to yourself. Being kind to you and others is very important, it has even been shown to increase levels of serotonin which helps with anxiety and depression and keeps our gut healthy, which is where over 80% of our immunity lies. Being kind involves listening, paying attention, not judging, being gentle ... Give the gift of kindness to yourself, when your body is sending you messages; listen with as much kindness as you can muster. It's a great act of kindness towards yourself and others.

If you find it difficult to be kind, particularly to yourself, tap on:

Even though I find it difficult to be kind to me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself ANYWAY

Even though I don't deserve kindness, I deeply and completely love and accept myself ANYWAY

Even though I am not worth kindness, I deeply and completely love and accept myself ANYWAY

More on EFT here

The Thymus Gland

By Dr. John Diamond:

I place great importance on the activation of the thymus gland in my practice. The thymus gland has many important functions. Among them are:
(A) the production in early life of special lymphocytes called T-cells which are vitally important in immunological surveillance, which is directly concerned with resistance to infections and cancer,
(B) the activation, after puberty, of the T-cells by thymus hormones,
(C) involvement in the flow of lymph throughout the body,
(D) the monitoring and regulation of energy flow throughout the body energy systems, initiating instantaneous corrections to overcome imbalances as they occur so as to achieve a rebalancing and harmony of body energy, and
(E) the thymus serves as the link between mind and body, being the first organ to be affected by mental attitudes and stress. Hence, activation and stimulation of the thymus is an essential, primary foundation of achieving and maintaining positive health.

In his book, Life Energy: Unlocking the Hidden Power of your Emotions to Achieve Total Well Being, Dr John Diamond provides evidence that the thymus gland controls the acupuncture energy meridians of the human body, and is the glandular key to vitality, love, courage and the will to live and the will to be well.

When we are born our thymus gland is quite large, nearly as large as the heart and lungs. As we get older the thymus atrophies (as early as 15 years of age) and very often becomes a mass of fat in our 40s and 50s. Tapping on the thymus has been scientifically shown to improve its function and it also grows in size! The thymus is also referred to as the higher heart chakra. See previous post on this. Take care of this beautiful and underappreciated organ.

Hurt

This is an excerpt from the book Ageless Body Timeless Mind by Deepak Chopra. My comments are in bold in square brackets. It's a long post but well worth the read!

Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety.
Unexpressed anger, redirected against yourself and held within, is called guilt.
The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
(From psychiatrist David Viscott).

What this cycle tells us is that stored hurt is responsible for a wide range of psychological distress. Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt and depression. The only way to deal with these layers of pain is to find out what hurts as the pain occurs, deal with it [use EFT], and move on. Living in the present means being honest enough to avoid the easy emotion, which is anger, and expose the hurt, which is harder to confront. When hurt is not resolved in the present, the vicious buildup of anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression can only grow worse.

The exercise is to learn the steps of how to feel in the present:
1. Realise that hurt is the most basic negative feeling. You cannot be in the present without willingness to feel hurt.
2. Be with your sensations. Resist the impulse either to deny what you feel or turn it into anger.
3. Say what you feel to the person who caused the hurt. [This does not have to be face to face, there are many different exercises you can use, writing, role playing etc]
4. Resolve your emotion [use EFT] and move on.

This may seem like an exercise in suffering, but in fact it is an exercise in freedom. [Emotional Freedom] Being hurt isn't pleasant, but it is real. It puts you in the present, whereas conditioned responses of anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression put you out of the present. Once you are in the present, you can follow the trail of your emotions back to their source, [EFT is excellent for this] which is not pain but love, compassion, truth- the real you.

There is no purpose in suffering except as a guide to your truth. In and of itself, pain has no worth except as a signal that will pull you out of pain. When an infant is hurt, it cries, gets the hurt out of its system, and then relaxes. It rejoins the body's basic state, which is pleasure, ease, and comfort. If you want to feel these things, all you have to do is be yourself [use EFT on tailenders that may come up here], but being yourself means getting past the tendency to repress or divert your emotions, which all of us learned in early childhood.

Coming to the moment by putting your attention on the pain allows you to release the pain as soon as it occurs. [The observer affect] This release occurs naturally- it is what the body wants to do- and attention is the healing power that triggers it. Putting attention on your feelings gets you closer to the state of witnessing; you observe the pain without getting wrapped up in all the secondary blame, avoidance, and denial that usually follows. In the act of witnessing, insight becomes possible. It takes detachment [use EFT] to bring understanding, and if you get caught up in your hurt [use EFT], you won't see the reason behind it. No one can hurt you today without triggering a hurt in your past. You have to see that in order to find yourself.

As you learn to say, "I feel hurt", and really be with that feeling, more openness will develop. the emotions that frighten us are the complex ones, because they overwhelm the natural release mechanism. You cannot simply release guilt or depression. They are secondary formations that arose once you forgot how to release hurt. [Which is why a bit of detective work and/or persistence is usually needed with EFT to get to the bottom of these more complex emotions]

The more hurt you honestly feel, the more comfortable you will be with pain, because the ability to release it will grow. As this happens, you will feel easier about all your other emotions. (To a blocked mind, feeling 'positive' emotions such as love and trust is often just as difficult as feeling 'negative' emotions such as hate and distrust. Both are elauded by old unresolved hurts). [use EFT to resolve old hurts] Feeling easy with your emotions means that you won't get entangled in other people's. Instead of blaming the ones who hurt you, you will be able to forgive. [which is a state of mind, not an act in my opinion]

The lessons of this exercise are very profound:
- Everyone is acting from his own level of consciousness. This is all we can ask of ourselves or anyone else. However hurtful someone is, he is doing the best he can, given the limits of his consciousness [again EFT may be needed here!]
- Forgiveness of others comes only when you can release your own hurt. the more complete your release, the more sincere the forgiveness. [This is very true, don't give yourself a hard time if you 'can't forgive', use EFT instead to clear your hurt]
- No one can really hurt you unless you give them the power to do so. This power lies in your own unresolved pain. You can take control of the old pain and reclaim power over your emotions. [with EFT] Until you do that, your feelings will continue to be tossed around at the whim of others.

Your higher self

"I want to get rid of ..." EFT tapping script

This has to be the most common sentence I hear when someone is going through pain/suffering, mental, emotional or physical. When we resist something we give it power and energy. There's always a message in the pain or experience for us, it is up to us to listen ... try this EFT script to help you dissolve the resistance inherent in the feeling "I want to get rid of...". EFT Shortcut diagram

Even though I want to get rid of …, I deeply and completely accept myself
Even though I can’t accept or love myself if I don’t get rid of this …, I choose to accept how I feel about that right now
Even though I’m afraid that I’ll never get rid of this …, somehow I know I can accept that, sort of, somehow

I can’t bear this TH
I don’t like it EB
I want it to go away SE
I hate it UE
I can’t accept myself with this … UN
Get lost UC
I can’t stand … CB
Go away! UA

What If I never get rid of it?! TH
I’m afraid EB
I can’t accept myself SE
Yes I can UE
No I can’t! UN
I want it gone UC
I can’t stand it anymore! CB
It just won’t go UA

Maybe I can accept myself anyway TH
No I can’t EB
Yes I can SE
Are you joking?! UE
Maybe I can see ‘it’ differently UN
What does ‘it’ want to say? UC
I haven’t been listening CB
Maybe I can listen and ask ‘it’ what it wants and needs? UA

Metaphors

God is a metaphor for that which transcends all levels of intellectual thought. It's as simple as that ~ Joseph Campbell

Use of metaphors are very powerful, particularly in healing. If you are feeling pain, how do you usually describe that pain? We use metaphors all the time without realising it and they can guide us to the core issues and beliefs underlying symptoms.

My stomach feels like a balloon
My head is hammering
I feel so angry I could burst
She blushed as red as a tomato
My legs feel like dead weights
This weight on my shoulders

Using metaphors for healing with EFT is extremely powerful. Look at the organ/place where you have an issue, what is its function? How does its function relate to something that is going on in your life? For example if you are having stomach issues, is there something happening that you can't stomach? or something that you 'can't take'?

I'll leave you with a lovely clip from the film Il Postino where the poet Pablo Neruda explains le metafore to Massimo Troisi (Mario Ruoppolo).

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Our beliefs

What do you believe about yourself to be true? Do you realise these beliefs are the filter or screen through which you are living your life? One of the best ways of finding our beliefs is to state an affirmation in the positive. Do you hear any objections in your mind? If you do, these are your true beliefs. Once you have identified these beliefs, you can tap on them to dissolve them. You will then stop attracting things that match up with these same 'negative' or false beliefs.

Gary Craig's (founder of EFT) personal peace procedure is very useful. You make a list of all events that bother you right now when you think about them, write them down, and start tapping on them.

My favourite addition to this list is to also write down the beliefs or conclusions you came to about yourself, others and life as a result of these events. Using EFT to clear the effect of the event itself, only partially resolves the charge in my experience. It is very useful to dissolve the false or 'negative' belief that you arrived at because of what happened, that's when miracles and real emotional freedom begin to unfold. These beliefs are often subconscious but we can shine the light on them by listening to ourselves and looking at what shows up in our life as 'evidence' of those beliefs.

It's amazing how children can internalise happenings/events into beliefs such as:
I am wrong
I am unlovable
I am horrible/disgusting
I don't count
I am not heard
and so on ...

Try and match up all of your events with a belief that you hold about yourself, maybe you will start to see a pattern and then you can tap on it! Our lives and relationships mirror back to us the beliefs, true and false, that we hold about ourselves. If we believe we are bad and attract abuse it is not because we deserve it (although this may be another false belief) it is because the mirror wants us to HEAL our sense of self and remember that we are loved, lovable and accepted.