As Eckhart Tolle says, "when we've suffered enough we'll be ready to surrender, to let go and to stop resisting what is."
Most of us might be ready to start allowing our pain to surface, and stop fighting it, when we're metaphorically on our knees (if not literally) or when we've reached "rock bottom".
Author Iyanla Vanzant writes in One Day My Soul Just Opened Up "When we surrender, we mentally let go to the end, through the thing that we fear, which in effect releases fear thoughts from the mind. It helps you realise that no matter what happens, you will be able to handle it. Surrender helps you to become willing to live through the experience, without giving your entire life over to it".
You can try the following set up phrases to help you:
"Even though I am afraid to let go of ...., I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I choose to surrender this ...".
"Even though I am unwilling to let go as I won't be in control anymore, I choose to be open to surrendering".
"Even though I am afraid of what will come up if I do let go, I choose to feel safe and to be there for me, I am okay and completely safe".
Tap on however you are feeling, you can have a conversation with yourself while you are tapping the karate chop or sore point to correct for psychological reversal, it doesn't have to be just one word. Sometimes we can't sum up how we feel in one word. Be completely honest about how you are feeling, your body will know if you are not being honest and will give you signs to show that (for example there will be no shift). When you hit the jackpot, you will feel enormous relief, (yawns, sighs, belches, burps, laughter, tears etc) this is your body thanking you for listening and for releasing that energy blockage that it has been holding for you until you were ready to release it. Tapping diagram.