Tell the truth, tell the truth, tell the truth ~ Sheryl Louise Moller
Have you ever found yourself “performing” in a session when you're the client? Have you ever downplayed how you feel or found yourself trying to gain approval? Some part of you senses and knows that the therapist/practitioner wants you to make THEM feel good about their skills, or whatever else, and you go along with it out of fear. Fear that if they really knew your true circumstances or how you really really felt, they'd disapprove in some way or another?
Unless it's completely safe to open up in an authentic way, and to be able and to be free to express exactly how we feel, the therapy is an absolute waste of time in my opinion. The practitioner gives tacit permission for us to do this, it's unspoken but we know when we don't have that permission. All we have to do is trust that knowing. What I find sad is that many of us will blame our self, we don't trust that if the therapist cannot handle our emotions in all their multi-coloured glory, it says more about them than it does about us. So it comes down to trusting our self and our inner knowing. We know, so pretending that we don't know, doesn't serve us well and neither does it serve the therapist or practitioner. Wherever we find our self reveals a healing opportunity for us and for the other person if they wish to accept it.
Unwanted moments introduce us to parts of ourselves that would otherwise never get healed were it not for the difficulties that first reveal them and that lead us to release their pain ~ Guy Finley