Thursday, November 18, 2010

Tell the Truth

Tell the truth, tell the truth, tell the truth ~ Sheryl Louise Moller

Have you ever found yourself “performing” in a session when you're the client? Have you ever downplayed how you feel or found yourself trying to gain approval? Some part of you senses and knows that the therapist/practitioner wants you to make THEM feel good about their skills, or whatever else, and you go along with it out of fear. Fear that if they really knew your true circumstances or how you really really felt, they'd disapprove in some way or another?

Unless it's completely safe to open up in an authentic way, and to be able and to be free to express exactly how we feel, the therapy is an absolute waste of time in my opinion. The practitioner gives tacit permission for us to do this, it's unspoken but we know when we don't have that permission. All we have to do is trust that knowing. What I find sad is that many of us will blame our self, we don't trust that if the therapist cannot handle our emotions in all their multi-coloured glory, it says more about them than it does about us. So it comes down to trusting our self and our inner knowing. We know, so pretending that we don't know, doesn't serve us well and neither does it serve the therapist or practitioner. Wherever we find our self reveals a healing opportunity for us and for the other person if they wish to accept it. 

Unwanted moments introduce us to parts of ourselves that would otherwise never get healed were it not for the difficulties that first reveal them and that lead us to release their pain ~ Guy Finley


Anonymous said...

I am guilty of this sin. I never open up to any one. In all these years, since my birth, I have opened up to only one person that too not completely.

after that i decided that i should better not in future.

he did not abused that trust but i realized he might have.

lots and lots of love.

Noreen Barron said...

Dear Trisha,

When we don't feel safe we won't open up. If we fear getting hurt or feel too vulnerable we'll protect ourself, sometimes because we know the person is not trustworthy and sometimes because we're scared. I think it's important to be selective with who we choose to share with but it's lovely to be able to bare our soul to another (including our self, very often we're not honest with our self) and for them to witness and honour who we are. It's very healing.

Lots of love
Noreen xx

Anonymous said...

Dearest noreen,
I agree with every word you said. nothing is more painful than bottled up pain and fear.

Been there seen that. I know what you are saying very well.

Life has taught me caution too, a thing which i lacked too much :)

lots and lots of love.

Noreen Barron said...

Have a lovely weekend, Love xx

Anonymous said...

you too. have a fantastic weekend.

lots of love.