The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change ~ Carl Rogers
One way to find core beliefs/issues is to ask your self what do you feel you have to get rid of or make go away in order for you to accept and love your self? Can you love and accept your self exactly as you are right now, even if nothing changed? If not, why not? Then, tap on your answers. Tapping diagram.
… I never lose weight, I can still love and accept myself
… this … never goes away, I'll still be able to accept and love myself exactly as I am
… I remain sick, I'm a good and lovable person
… I can't/won't accept myself exactly as I am, I am still ok
In the film, The Living Matrix, Arielle Essex talks about developing a brain tumour, and after 8 years of doing all she could to make it go away, she finally gave the tumour permission to stay, and when she did that, it disappeared. She says:
“When I finally let go of needing my tumour to disappear, when I finally accepted its presence and gave it permission to be with me to the end of my days, when I recognised it as my friend, guide and teacher, when I felt gratitude for the motivation it had given me to change my life and my thinking, when I had forgiven all the people I had grudges with, my tumour no longer had a purpose and it melted away!"