Wednesday, May 21, 2014

EFT and Dissociation

Dissociation is the mechanism by which our wounds (traumas) are survivable. It's also the mechanism by which trauma is maintained and continues, you cannot be traumatised and not be dissociated in some way. They go hand in hand. And we are, all of us, somewhere along this spectrum. Dissociation is an ingenious solution in order to be able to withstand the unbearable.

However, it costs us in the long run to stay dissociated. As the famous passage goes:

“If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.”

If we don't willingly bring our hurts forth, life will do it for us. In all sorts of ways and with all sorts of conditions and symptoms. Knowing this will completely change how we respond to problems. At least some of the time. We'll have more compassion and kindness for ourself, and when we can't, that's more than ok too. It's about accepting it all. You literally can tap on anything.

This is why when we tap, or do any work, our intention is so important. Wanting to get rid of it, just doesn't work. You have to tap for the courage to help you through whatever it is.

Trauma is unexperienced experience ~ Ivor Browne

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